As I was writing this post, I started to feel a little bad, because it seemed like I was only posting negative things. Then I realized the theme of my blog, and it was specific to the experiences of a Father, Friend, Co-worker, or Partner – so here it goes.
My son is back from college for the summer, and one day my son and his mom were talking about the neighbor’s daughter, only because she recently graduated from high school. His mother said that the neighbor’s daughter was going to prom in like a few weeks and my son argued that it must have happened already happened. They were going back and forth and then she added something about grad night and some other senior activity – my son said that it couldn’t be possible. I was listening in and decided to look at the high school website and it confirmed what his mom was saying. So, me thinking it was a good idea to butt into their conversation said that the school website confirmed what she was saying – instead of thanking me she screamed, “I Don’t Care!”. I was a bit taken back by what she said, and to tell you the truth I was in shock. Now, while still screaming – she then changed the subject and told me that her nail stylist told her that in Vietnam there was a surge of COVID cases. I was still trying to understand why she yelled, so in my mind, I wanted to scream “I Don’t Care!”, but of course instead I said, “Wow” and look away.
Lately, even more now during this pandemic, I think we all have very short fuses and pretty much anything can trigger a confrontation. I was truly upset about the whole incident and just did not want to deal with her the rest of the day. I know that we have all seen the news and have seen social media videos that talk about the rise in domestic violence, and road rage, and other bad things. I truly think that as a society we have reached our last nerve since this pandemic. I mean, it seriously sounds like “The last straw that broke the camel’s back” or “Put the last nail in the coffin” – I believe I got the idioms correct. People have reached their limits and it is getting in the way of peace and serenity among everyone. I am pretty sure that in my case it has been brewing for some time, but only recently I have noticed the increase and potency of these confrontations. I am pretty sure we have all been through something similar or maybe going through it now, but sometimes it is hard to avoid. The love can be there, but if things keep chipping away at the relationship whether it is with your friend, partner, co-worker, child, or anyone – it can be a bomb ready to explode, and if that happens things can be said, that would forever change your relationship and you as a person it can leave a scar. I know, these are experiences and we all hope to learn from, but man they start to create scars and the body, mind, and soul can only take so much. We have the strength as humans, or we believe in our faith to get us through these, but you and I both know that it starts to get exhausting. I don’t know it is tough, and relationships can be tricky, but no impossible I guess.
I leave you with this thought, “Life sometimes can chip away at your life force, but I believe if you step back, take a deep breath, and count to 10, it might be a little clearer on what you need to do next without the situation getting out of hand”. – don’t say something you might regret later. Thanks for reading and please have a wonderful Wednesday.